Is There Anybody Out There

There’s some odd things happening in my condo.  A couple of weeks ago, in the wee hours of the night, I heard creaking sounds.  I tell myself it’s the temperature change that’s causing the hardwood floors to creak.  But this time it sounded as if there was someone walking inside my unit.  I got out of bed and looked around my unit.  There wasn’t anyone of course.  But a couple of my kitchen cupboards doors were opened.  Hmm…. I have left them opened before but I had no idea if I left them opened that night.  Needless to say, I left the lights on when I went back to bed.

A few nights ago, I was washing dishes when I heard a loud noise behind me.  A box of plastic food containers fell and spilled open.  This box has been sitting on top of a case of water for months.  The only way it could have fallen if someone walked by it and caught the edge of the box with their foot.   I’m sure there is a logical explanation but I haven’t figured it out yet.


Update on my dad:  He’s not doing that well.  He got a bit violent, pushing the personal support worker, swearing and throwing things. I had to keep calm when I talked to him.  The doctor at the hospital told us that when the dementia gets worse, some of the patient’s fears and behaviours gets exaggerated.  If the patient was a cautious and suspicious type of person, that behaviour might become dominant.  In my dad’s case, he is a solitary figure.  He just kept telling us “leave me the f*ck alone!”.   I know something is bothering him but I couldn’t get it out from him or he wasn’t able to express it which made him even more frustrated.  The home care is still best for him now despite all the challenges.


8 thoughts on “Is There Anybody Out There

  1. Maybe get your place checked out for an animal or uninvited houseguest. you never know. sounds like everything is going o k. keep being strong!

  2. Your place does sound a little haunted. LOL I hope it is only your mind playing you a trick.
    Hopefully, the situation with your dad will stabilize. It happens often that people suffering from dementia become aggressive and violent. Challenging situation.

    • Something just fell from the top of my washing machine (stacked) but I know it’s because the dryer was on. We’re keeping a close eye on my dad. The doctor visited again today and the nurses are now visiting 2x a week.

  3. i’m sorry to hear about the developments with your dad. but it’s good you are there and calming him down – it must be so rough for him. being out of familiar comforts is the last thing I’d ever want for the people i care about.

    • It is rough for him. I think he doesn’t understand what is happening to him and misses being independent. He told me that he had envisioned his final years to be spent reading, enjoying life and relaxing.

  4. i was going to say what others already suggested. maybe it’s a rodent? raccoon? bird that somehow made it into your attic or roof?

    sad to hear about your dad…
    sometimes the elderly get very agitated and confused when they are sick with infections like a UTI or pneumonia or something. normally people don’t get confused when they get sick like that, but in older people, it can present as confusion, initially. (just a thought.)

    hope your dad’s confusion will resolve, but if it doesn’t, i hope that he is less aggressive and more open and talkative.

    also hope that you get some respite during the week, to rest, cope, and do whatever it is you need as part of ‘self care’ (aka taking care of yourself).

    • There’s so much complications with his health. The doctor said we can’t treat everything. At this stage, we can only make him comfortable. He still has many moments of clarity which is good. He lives with my sister so she is on the “front line” and I’ve asked her to get some caregiver counseling. But I also recognize the need for me to take care of myself too.

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